On a Personal Note

18 Things 2018 Taught Me

Hello, old friend! Buona domenica, and buon 2019 ๐Ÿ™‚

I can’t believe it’s been 2+ months since I last posted something on here, but it’s a new year and I vow to be more consistent with my blog. So, my first post of 2019 will be, naturally, an ode to 2018 (it was really hard coming up with such an original title…).

The year 2018 treated me well, and I was honestly sad to see it go. I learned and realized a lot… about myself, family, friendship, health, travel and much more. I’m eager to share it all with you, and hope 2018 gifted you some of the same wisdom and magic it did me:

1 HOW CRITICAL it is to be in tune with my body and seek answers to my health-related questions even when doctors and loved ones tell me there are none. Whether it be physical or mental, if something ever feels off, I’ll do whatever is necessary to get to the bottom of it.

2 HOW BEAUTIFUL of a blessing being an aunt is, and that it is possible to love another human being unconditionally, even before he or she is born. The day my niece entered this world was one of the happiest days of my life, and I’m so lucky to be her aunt.

3 THAT BRAVERY is not synonymous with fearlessness (although dictionary.com says otherwise..) because permanently moving to Italy was undoubtedly the boldest, yet most terrifying thing I’ve ever done. I consider myself courageous, but I–even today–still have my moments.

4 THAT IT’S NEVER TOO LATE to start “that thing”. Starting a blog was something that I had in mind ever since I studied abroad in 2012, but never did because I was lazy. (I did, though, record most of my days and its memories in a marble notebook if that counts?!) Even in 2016, when I first moved here for a year, I thought about creating one but felt my time had passed. What was the point? Earlier this year, after weeks of frustration, confusion, technology-cursing and many a headache, I finally created Diary of a Duel Citizen on WordPress.

5 THAT BEGINNER’S LUCK is a real thing since I landed an apartment in the city within the first week of arriving here. Generally I’m a pretty unlucky person, so I’m still wondering how all the stars aligned for this one.

6 HOW WONDERFUL living in Milano is. Although I lived here before, I really took for granted how eclectic, green and innovative this city is. I sometimes (OK, always) compare New York to Milano, and living here feels like home.

7 THAT BLOOD isn’t always thicker than water. I’ve always been a family-first type of person, but–as I get older–I realize that some bonds just aren’t worth the disappointment and time. Just because someone is family, doesn’t mean that person should be/remain in my life.

8 TO GET SERIOUS about skincare. Now that I’m approaching my thirties, I’ve been noticing more lines here and a little wrinkle there. Aging is inevitable, as we know, but I have been trying to take better care of my skin. (Not trying to age like Britney Spears, although I’m still her #1 fan…)

9 THAT TRAVELING ALONE isn’t as scary as I thought it’d be. I once was that girl who couldn’t dare eat alone, so traveling to another country by myself in April was unfathomable, even for me. The fear, though, literally lasted only a few hours because I ended up having the time of my life that weekend.

10 HOW ABSOLUTELY BREATHTAKING Istanbul is. I wasn’t expecting to love this city as much as I did, but… its history, food, people, architecture, etc… really took me by surprise.

11 THAT WORKING WITH KIDS is something I enjoy and am good at, but not necessarily something I desire as a career. I struggled for months with this dilemma, and ultimately made the choice to forego all the English teaching opportunities offered to me.

12 THAT IT’S OKAY to be selfish, whether it be my time or space. I realized this year that selfishness is not inherently a bad word. I’ve had people take advantage of my kindness this year, to which I’ve responded with a smile and a vow to never put myself in a similar situation ever again (enter, a bit of selfishness..)

13 THAT NO MATTER how long I’ve been gone, or how far away I move, I will forever and always be a [loud and proud] New Yorker.

14 HOW UNDERRATED the region of Sardegna is. I adored its beaches, from north to south, and felt welcomed by its people. I was intrigued by its history and enchanted by its language. It was only a ten-day trip, but I’m really glad I was able to visit this island over the summer.

15 THAT I’M NEVER TOO OLD to make friends. Making friends two years ago was easy (easier, I should say) because I was in school with others who were pretty much in the same boat as me. This time, though, I struggled. It isn’t easy to make friends at this age, but I bursted out of my comfort zone this year and I’m glad I did. I don’t have a lot of friends here in Milano, but I have enough.

16 TO BE PERSISTENT and never give up. Landing the current position I have now was no easy feat. For the two months that I was a contender for the role, my patience was tested and capabilities questioned. Normally I would have thrown in the towel, but not for this job. Not this time… which brings me to…

17 HOW AMAZING it is to have a job where I’m excited to go to work each day. I haven’t had that feeling in a long time, and it feels really good to work for an incredibly cool company, in an exciting capacity. It’s heavily tech.-based (not my forte at all), but I’m slowly learning the ropes of this new industry and hoping to utilize these skills in a future role!

18 THAT LIFE IS OVER in the blink of an eye, and when my time here on this earth expires, I want to look back and be able to truthfully say that I did everything I set my heart and mind on. I’m only 27, feel like I’ve already lived three lives and want to live 30 more ๐Ÿ™‚ This journey is short; make the most of it.

Thanks for reading, and I’m curious if you have any nuggets of wisdom from 2018. Let me know below ๐Ÿ™‚

To a wiser.. more peaceful.. more magical 2019!

xo Rosa


  • Blue

    Yet another awesome post! Brava!
    In 2018
    I learned that most of us are more resilient than we think we are, yet we still sabotage our opportunities for growth because we want to โ€œplay it safeโ€ and stick with whatโ€™s familiar. That is not a fulfilling life for me so I will oftentimes find myself to be the โ€œdivergent oneโ€, โ€œthe weirdoโ€ and that is quite alright with me. ๐Ÿ™‚

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